Love is a craft.
Freedom is
where it begins.
We have more freedom than ever in how we create our intimate lives.
Yet, we feel more disconnected than ever. Freedom alone does not teach us how to love.
The Intimate Intelligence Project is a carefully chosen circle for people asking what lies beyond freedom and how to practise love more deeply.
We have more freedom than ever in how we create our intimate lives.
Yet, we feel more disconnected than ever. Freedom alone does not teach us how to love.
The Intimate Intelligence Project is a carefully chosen circle for people asking what lies beyond freedom and how to practise love more deeply.
What it is
Learn the skills of love
A guided experience to build the knowledge, skills and confidence to navigate love and relationships well. A place to understand what love is, how we relate and how to bring that understanding into the way we live.
Think and do, together
Big ideas from articles, films, books and conversation paired with real-world experiments. Not just theory. No more seemingly-deep chats at the dinner table that disappear by morning. Here, the conversation turns into ideas that you can actually act on.
For people who want to go deeper
Made for curious thinkers who feel the usual answers about dating, commitment, relationships and belonging do not go far enough.
A circle chosen with care
This is not an open event, a dating app or a social club. It is a select circle of people hand-picked for their curiosity, open-minds and seriousness. The extraordinary quality of the company is a key part of what we're offering.
We are looking for thoughtful people who want to understand love and the world we love in, more deeply. This is not a mailing list. Leave your email and we'll be in touch about the next circle, meeting in person in Amsterdam.
How it works
- 01
A conversation.
We have an in-person chat to introduce ourselves and the project, understand who you are and what you are looking for and explore together whether this is the right fit. You are choosing us as much as we are choosing you.
- 02
Different ways in.
If there is a match, there are different ways to engage.
Discussion circles.
Small gatherings for people drawn to the same questions about love, commitment, freedom and how we live.
Masterclasses.
Guided sessions combining ideas, conversation and practical tools.
Deeper cohort experiences.
Small-group journeys that unfold over time, turning understanding into real-life practice.
Retreats.
Immersive gatherings designed to step outside everyday life and go deeper.
While keeping each circle small and carefully curated, our pricing is structured to ensure that what matters is genuine interest, not means. And to let you discover the value for yourself, your first workshop is complimentary.
Request an invitation
We are looking for thoughtful people who want to understand love and the world we love in, more deeply.
This is not a mailing list. Leave your email and we'll be in touch about the next circle, meeting in person in Amsterdam.
Who we are
We're Jen and Emmanuel. For over twenty years, we've been exploring the same question from different angles: how do people build deep, lasting, meaningful relationships?
It's a question that has shaped our own relationship and our respective areas of work. Emmanuel has spent much of his life developing the ideas behind The Intimate Intelligence Project, originating in an early interest in how societies evolve. Jen has spent her career helping organisations deliver social impact, sustainability and systems change.
Over the years, we've designed and hosted gatherings where people could speak seriously about relationships, sex and love, family and the changing world around them.
Again and again, we noticed the same gaps. The endless ways for people to meet and talk about relationships rarely lead to real understanding. And people lack spaces to actually practise.
Our awareness of these gaps convinced us to create a space to fill them. What began as an informal club between friends and friends of friends in London has evolved into The Intimate Intelligence Project, in Amsterdam.
We're not therapists, coaches or gurus. What we bring is deep research, a holistic perspective on how relationships are changing and a long-standing practice of creating experiences where sincere, intelligent and generous dialogue can happen.
The aim is not just to have better conversations, but to help people take what they discover into the way they live.
We believe that intimate relationships deserve far more attention than they are given in modern life. This is our way to create a community where people can explore them together.
Testimonials
“Honestly, I came for the reading list. But the best part happened after: taking ideas from the conversations and actually trying it in my own relationship that week.”
“I've been in plenty of rooms where people care about self-development. But, this felt different. People cared about becoming better at loving, but also about each other and the world around them.”
“What stayed with me was how easily the room moved from the macro to the micro. From how society is changing, to how I listen, commit, avoid conflict, or make room for someone else.”
“It was nice to be part of a group of people trying to overcome their burdens and worries and questions through the lens of love. It never felt like therapy or lecture.”
“It was the first time I met people who were thinking about love with the same seriousness I usually associate with work, politics or art. That was strangely liberating.”
“The conversations were intellectually serious, but never abstract for the sake of it. We would start with an article or a film, and end up asking what it meant for our actual lives.”
Our POV
We've built a world organised around freedom.
And freedom matters. But the relationships that matter most ask something more of us: vulnerability, commitment and the willingness to adjust to others.
Nobody teaches you how to do that. So we learn from fragments: podcasts, books, therapy, dating, heartbreak. Piecing together answers on our own.
Our starting point is different.
Amo, ergo sum. I love, therefore I am.
Love isn't a feeling. It's a choice and a practice. A way of relating to ourselves, to others and to the world. Because how we relate in the intimate sphere shapes how we connect in the public sphere as well.
We can develop the knowledge and skills to live in this way. But we cannot do it alone. That's what we're building: a circle of people exploring how to love and looking to practise it together.
For people who have built lives with freedom in them, and are ready to ask what love requires next.